They remember hurt.
We recall damaging words, cracked relationships, and yes, our sin before a holy God. I doubt that you've reached this point in life without experiencing brokenheartedness.
But we don't have to exist that way.
God loves broken people. When we break, He comes in with His salve of love to make the repairs: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." (Psalm 34:18)
You and I choose how we handle each break. We can break toward Him. Honest brokenness invites God's healing. When we walk through valleys He walks with us. Just read Psalm 23. He nurtures us in the lush vegetation of the valleys where His living water flows. That's where we grow.
Or we can break away from Him by allowing the hurt and pain of brokenness to foster bitter feelings and resentment. That path hardens our heart and delays God's repair work. When we surrender our hurts to God, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." (Psalm 147:3)
Whether our brokenness comes from our own actions or those of another, we still have a choice: imprison ourselves in self-pity or trust in God's promise proclaimed by our Savior, "He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners."
If you find yourselves imprisoned, ask God to give you the strength to swing open the prison cell door. He'll knock, but He won't come in unless invited.
Allow His light to flood that darkness.
And receive His unconditional rescue of love.
He died for you.
He wants you to live - not merely exist.